What to do????

Juan and I have come to a situation where we are not sure how to handle a situation. Let me just give you a little background of what is going on.

First Edgar came from a place that we are not sure that they even had electricity in the home. We heard that the home just barley got water.

The past week as we have been trying to comfort little Edgar we have allowed him to watch TV while he falls asleep. The problem is that there have been days that i have fallen asleep before him as he just does not want to shut his little eyes. The next day is not so bad but i just want him to go to be at a decent hour.

Last Night i put my foot down I suggested that we put Edgar to bed and not turn on the TV. Juan was very hesitant and said that we should do it slowly. I disagreed and told him that there should be no issue seeing that he had no tv where he came from.

Edgar cried for about 20 min and it made both of us sad. I feel that we did the right thing and he will eventually get used to it and will stop crying after a couple of days.

Like every parent i want the best for this child and I do not want him glued to the TV.

If anyone has any suggestions I would appreciate it.


First Week as Parents.

Well we got what we have been waiting for. We finally were able to bring a child into our home. Edgar is blood. He is Juans nephew and he is the cutest thing in the world. Edgar is 3 years old and seems to adapting very well to his new family as we have been adapting well as well for being new parents. We took him to the dr to get checked out to make sure that everything seemed OK and he is a healthy kid. Edgar is in the lower percentile of weight and height especially for his age but not to worry as we are planning on beefing him right up. 🙂

Yes like all situations there are some things that still need to be ironed out but time will only do that. Edgar ONLY speaks Spanish and I really do not speak Spanish at all. I know enough to get by but at times there is still issues with communication but again I have no clue of the background of this child and i am sure that all this is new as well.

Juan and I also enrolled Edgar in Daycare and he is actually going to the same sitter that Cameron and Cooper go to or have gone too. Stephanie seems to be doing a great job with him as again there might be a language barrier there as well but she seems to say that there is no issues with it at all which is good. 

Everything seems to be going well and everyone is adapting nicely and i cant wait for whats to come. 

Below is a picture of Edgar and Myself Feeding the ducks at the park

Edgar and Ducks 

Is Today the Day We become parents?

That is the lingering question of the day. Today has been really nerve racking and going really really slow. We have not heard much  hence why i think this day is dragging and going really slow. I become very impatient at times like these as i get very excited. Today i am trying not to get to overwhelmed with excitement as i do not want to be disappointed if something happens. I hope Edgar gets here safe but hurries at the same time. I know it is about a 3 hour drive from where he is coming from and we have not heard anything yet so it will be at least 3 hours from now if they were to leave now.

I am going on and on so i am probably boring everyone right now but i thought i would just give a update on the status.


The Day is Near

Since my last post there has been a lot going on. We are getting very excited but again a little stand offish as we can not believe that in a couple of days we could finally become Dad and Papi.

Juan and I have done some homework and we are still stuck in the middle trying to decide what route we are planning on taking. Monday we went to a guardian class that basically told us what we have to do and the cost that are all involved in becoming a legal guardian. In San Diego County and maybe the entire state of California t=it cost about $1000 to just become a legal guardian. Not to mention all the homework that is involved. There are alternative routes that we are mostly going to take while we are waiting for the adoption to finalize. Apparently the mother is able to sign a letter of consent and have it notarized and also have a affidavit saying that Juan and myself are legally in charge of the child.

This week we have also gone and tried to prepare as much as we can for this child. We went to Walmart and stocked up on all the essentials that one would have if they had children in the home.

My brother and sister-in-Law are also helping out as they are willing to let me go through their storage and pick what i think that is needed for this child. (Thank you Guys)

I know that we will never be prepared but i think that we are as prepared as we can be for this child.

I know thins is just the start of the battle to actually have the child adopted but it will be well worth it in the end.

Gay Adoption

A new Direction and a new step forward

Well days have gone by and weeks have flown away and we still do not have our completed home study as of yet. We are not sure what the hold up is or why it is taking so long but now there is something a little different on the offering plate.

In a nutshell we are planning on adopting Juans little nephew (Edgar) At first we will only have legal guardianship of Edgar but we are going to go through with the adoption process at the same time. The reason for guardianship is so that we can care for the child legally. We will be able to take the child to the Dr and any other place that might question our status.

At this point  we are a little hesitant on the whole idea as it seems to good to be true. But  we are really getting excited and really want to help this child out. There are other twist and legal issues that i rather not discuss at this time but i am sure that everything will workout especially if it was meant to be.

As our family and friends are worried about our hearts getting broken and we understand the risks that we are taking and if we are not able to adopt little Edgar but are able to change his life somehow i think that it will be worth it.

Attached is a photo of we hope is our soon to be son.


Nov 2, 2008